The impacts of kidney disease can be a major source of stress, especially if you are facing other challenges in your life as well.

Trying to pretend everything is okay or ignoring how you feel can actually cause more problems in the long run. However, as you begin to make sense of your situation, either following a new diagnosis, or adapting to changes in circumstance,, these negative feelings can start to improve. A lot of the time, people surprise themselves at just how well they have coped, and they may even start to look at life differently.

I’ve learnt to stay independent, by asking for the help I need

What helps?

Living with kidney failure is not always easy, but along the way there are things that people have found helpful. These include:


It is difficult to manage on your own, and support from family, friends, and hospital staff is really important. Some people struggle to feel looked after by others, and do not want to be a burden, so do not like to ask for help. However, friends and family will not know what it is like to feel like you, and they will need you to tell them how they can offer the best support. You can also get support to help if your circumstances have changed, for example financial support to help you make ends meet during the cost of living rises.

Getting the right information

Often when we are in a negative mood, our thinking is negative too, and we tend to expect the worst. Finding out full information from our Emotional Resilience leaflet and can help to keep your thinking balanced. You can also find out more from our Lead Counsellor, Jackie, about how to keep your thought patterns positive.

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Having a life outside of treatment

Some people find that everything ends up revolving around their medical treatment and life is put on hold. It is important to find things to do that have nothing to do with your kidney failure, such as a job, hobbies, or your role within the family. This can help you to keep going and to find purpose and satisfaction. For example, if you’re on dialysis, you should dialyse to live, not live to dialyse.

Don’t take it out on yourself

Living with kidney failure can change your life, and this can change the way you look at yourself. Some people end up blaming themselves and this can actually lead to more distress.

Stress management

Stress can happen when our demands are greater than our resources to cope with them, so be aware of not taking on too much, or putting too much pressure on yourself. Also, increase your resources by taking time out to do nice things and relax.

Take control

In chronic health problems, people often feel out of control, and over time people give up and avoid things, this can affect their mood. It is important to keep a sense of being in control of your health, for example: find out information, keep records of your results, make sure you are fully involved in all the decisions about your treatment, keep on top of medications, and learn how to set up the dialysis machine yourself.

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Give your body the best chance

Low mood can affect our energy levels, but also kidney failure can make you very tired, and there is a tendency to limit activity. However, some people may rest too much, and this means that your muscles will weaken. Keeping up gentle exercise can actually help with the tiredness and can promote well-being. Having a healthy diet helps with well-being too.

What sort of problems do people with kidney disease experience?

  • Shock after diagnosis
  • Coming to terms with having kidney disease
  • Deciding which treatment options or medical procedures are best for them
  • Worries or problems about a particular type of treatment
  • Financial strain, particularly due to increased prices or decreased working hours
  • Emotional or relationship difficulties brought about by illness or treatments
  • The stress of adjusting to new treatments, for example a transplant
  • Sexual difficulties
  • Keeping to a treatment regime
  • Kidney donation and its implications
  • Sometimes feeling overwhelmed, like it’s all too much
  • Feeling anxious or depressed

I'm finding it hard to follow my treatment?

It is common for people to find it hard to follow complex medical advice and treatment as this involves major changes to their daily life. Your treatment is extremely important as it can improve the outcome of your condition. If you are experiencing difficulties with following medical treatment, we may be able to help.

How common is my problem?

Many people with kidney disease find it difficult coping with their condition, or the treatments for it, at some point in their lives. It is a life changing illness and requires a great deal of practical and emotional adjustment. There is no reason to feel ashamed or embarrassed if you are finding things hard going.

Emotional resilience 

Long-term conditions like chronic kidney disease (CKD) can affect different areas of your life as well as your health. Emotional resilience is about coping with your problems and finding a way to continue to live well, even when under considerable stress.

This leaflet gives an introduction to emotional resilience and provides some tips on how it can help you to cope with the stresses you may experience in your life.

Emotional resilience will not stop you from feeling stressed or experiencing difficult emotions. However it can help you to cope with difficult experiences without letting them become over-whelming.

Download our Emotional Resilience booklet.

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What support might be available to me?

You can find out more about emotional resilience on our emotional resilience page. If you need emotional support, you can get help from our team. Call us on 01420 541424 (Monday to Friday between 9am -5pm) or contact us through our website.

If you need financial support, our grants team may be able to help towards domestic costs, household items, travel expenses and training/qualification expenses. We are also providing £50 energy grants to help you to access better energy options. Find out more about our grants.